Birthday Photo Shoot

It was my birthday yesterday!

No Red Velvet this year

If you follow me on Instagram, you already know because I posted a couple of pictures from a birthday photo shoot I had. If you don’t follow me on Instagram, what are you waiting for? I’m @thejenniferabah.
Now, here’s the backstory for the photo shoot. I’m in a Whatsapp group with a number of my colleagues turned friends where we have random chats about random things. So a few weeks ago, a friend of mine (thank you Yejide!) mentioned in the group chat that there was a giveaway on Instagram for a free birthday photo shoot for anyone born in February. All you had to do was follow the studio on Instagram and leave a comment with your birthday. I did it just for fun and I won!

I did not think I would win guys! I’m not good at getting my pictures taken and I’m very awkward with posing and I can be quite uncomfortable with being the center of attention so when I found out I won I was like “Ewo! Who sent me!”.

Anyways, I’m really glad I won because the pictures are so good!

If you’ve seen a couple on Instagram, here’s more!

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On being MIA.

Hi guys!!!

It’s been so long! 

I know I’m always away these days, forgive me! 

It’s just that I’ve not been feeling like blogging at all which is so sad.

Sometimes, I have nothing to post about. Other times, I have stuff to post about but I never get to putting my thoughts in actual words. Most times, I’m just too tired or busy or lazy. 

I’ve not even been reading and commenting on other people’s blogs; many of you who blog know that I read and often like and comment on your posts but I’ve been MIA on your blogs for the longest time. 

Life just has a way of messing with you. 

Somehow, I keep getting busier everyday and too tired to be social; or maybe it’s all in my head and I’m just lazy and unmotivated.

I’ve taken out some time to think and though I haven’t found a strategy on how to post more, I’m going to put more effort and see how it goes from there; hopefully, I get my groove back.

I’m super grateful for everyone who’s sent me a mail or a message on Instagram or somewhere else or asked me in person why I’ve been missing on the blog. 

I hope that you guys will keep pushing and nudging me till I find my way back to being more consistent and more social.

Let’s slay the last month of 2016, shall we? I love you guys!


Obsessive Habits

There’s one very obsessive habit I have. 

I obsessively check and recheck things. I’m sort of “OCD” about it.
When I lock a door, I check at least 2 times that it’s locked. Sometimes, I’ll walk away after checking and then come back to check again. I didn’t know I did this until a friend said something along these lines to me one day, “how many times are you going to check the door? It can’t be any more locked that the last time you checked”.
When I plug earphones into my phone, I put one in my ear to be sure that the earphones are plugged in properly and the music isn’t playing out loud without my knowledge; then I put the second one in my ear. After a few minutes, you may find me taking out one to check again.
When I put my wallet in my bag and start to zip up the bag, I look at the wallet until my bag is fully closed. More often than not, I’ll open the bag again immediately and check that the wallet hasn’t magically disappeared. Sometimes, I’ll leave my finger on the wallet as I close it and take it out just before I fully close the bag so I can be sure it’s in there. 
When I set an alarm on my phone, I will check that I really set it at least 3 times before bed.
When I put my phone on silent, I’ll check over and over again too. I’ll put the phone in my pocket, bring it out, check. I’ll put it back in my pocket, wait a few minutes, bring it out and check again.
When I do CTRL+C on my computer, I do it at least 3 times to be sure I’ve really copied the text. I cannot count the amount of colleagues that have pointed this out to me. 
When I write something, I reread it over and over and over again.
When I want to say something, I will oftentimes say the words and roll them this way and that in my head till I say them. When I eventually say them out loud, I will most probably review what I said in my head and think about if it sounded right or if I should have said it in a different way. I also do this with actions so I review what I want to do before doing it and after doing it, I think about if I should have done it or how else I should have done it. (I guess you can already tell how indecisive I must be).
When I want to post a picture/video on Snapchat or Instagram, I criticize it and over analyze it. I will often ask my sisters/friends what they think before posting. (Don’t even get me started on captions). When I eventually post, you will catch me staring at the post for a long time. I’m asking myself if it was really good enough to post or if I could have used a better filter or a better caption or if I should have posted a different picture. In fact, I’m probably contemplating deleting it! 
These are just a few examples. I do many other things along these lines.

I don’t know why but I just like to over check things. I like to be sure. I don’t like to make mistakes.
Some of these things have stemmed from past experiences. For example, I once was on a bus listening to music with earphones and I didn’t know they weren’t plugged in properly so everyone on the bus could hear the music. (Don’t you hate it when people play music from their phones out loud in public places with strangers?). I once did CTRL+C and the text didn’t copy; ended up sending the wrong message to someone.
Another thing I think that caused this is that I am forgetful. 
There was a time when I could not shake people’s hands without thinking of the germs and I used to run through a bottle of sanitizer in less than a week.

In church when the pastor says “shake 5 people and tell them they’re welcome to church”, I wouldn’t shake anyone; and if I unavoidably had to, I’d put my hands in the bag and sanitize them as unnoticeably as I could. 

Things that I knew could potentially carry germs, like doorknobs and money, seriously irked me.

I don’t know how I made it through that phase but one day, I realized I hadn’t used hand sanitizer in the longest time.
In the same vein, I’m hoping that my obsessive checking and rechecking slows down or stops some day because honestly, it makes me look very cuckoo sometimes to innocent bystanders.
Do you have any obsessive habits? Please share!

My Fauxchella

I love music! I think almost everyone does because I’ve only met a few people in my lifetime who don’t really like music. 

I think the thing about music is that there is something for everyone, for every mood and for everywhere. 

When the people over at TickPick asked me to share my dream music festival lineup or my Fauxchella lineup (fake Coachella), I couldn’t resist.

Side bar: Coachella is one of the most famous music festivals in America (for anyone who doesn’t know).

If I could have my perfect dream music concert, who would perform? 

  • Beyoncé: There would be no concert for me if my mum did not perform! (Yes, she’s my mum; don’t hate #BeyHive 🐝) I would probably take videos and scream and sing all through the concert! I’m obsessed with the Queen. Her music is amazing and she is even more amazing. And yes, she would be the headline act at my dream concert.

The remaining artistes are listed in no particular order.

  • Wizkid: Since the days of ‘Holla At Your Boy”, I knew Wizkid would be a star but I did not anticipate him becoming a doro mega super star. Wizkid knows how to make songs into hits and he has so many jams! I replayed his ‘Superstar’ album till it pretty much scratched. So if I had a dream concert, Wizkid would be the artist to make me dance the night away.
  • Ed Sheeran: Ed Sheeran has so many amazing songs and I most definitely would want him at my dream concert. My favourite Ed Sheeran song is “Give me love” so I may shed a tear or two when he starts singing it. I also love “Kiss me” and “I see fire” so much. 
  • Nicki Minaj: I love Nicki Minaj! If she could just come and perform only “Moment 4 life”, I would be okay (Love that song so much). Her “Pink Friday” album is my favorite and it had me feeling like a rapper when it dropped; I would try to rap along (abi chop mouth along).
  • Styl-Plus: If you didn’t listen to Styl-Plus back in the day then I don’t even know what you listened to oh! Where the hell did they go???!!! My dream concert would definitely include them singing “Olufunmi”, “Call my name”, “Run away” and “Imagine that”. Styl-Plus please come back!
  • Adele: Adele is one of my favourites. Her voice is so good and her music is timeless. I would probably sing along to every single song when she performs at my dream concert; she has too many great songs. There are artistes and then there’s Adele. She is just amazing. 
  • Mo’Hits Records: What’s a concert without throwback jams and dancing like a crazy person? Mo’Hits would definitely have me dancing all night long. Only D’banj and Wande Coal would do but I’m greedy so I want the whole crew please! Mo’Hits ran the Nigerian music scene back in the day, no one can deny. Many of us were sad when they broke up. They had way too many hits, individually, in duos and as a group, that I would love to hear at my dream concert. “Why me”, “Fall in love”, “Mo gbono feli feli”, “Ololufe”, “You bad”, “Kiss your hand”, “Bumper to bumper”, “Taboo”, “Over the moon”, “Something about you”, Pop something”, “Winchi winchi” etc. The list is endless! I’m already dancing!
  • Rihanna: Riri just has to be featured in my concert! Rihanna has too many jams plus she will dance and put on the biggest show! I want her, I need her at my concert. 
  • Taylor Swift: Taylor Swift just came and took the world by storm! If you don’t think Taylor Swift is awesome then I don’t know for you oh. Her music is great and she has shown that there is no stopping her. She has too too many songs that I would sing along to at my concert so I have to have her.

That’s it! My dream concert; my Fauxchella!

If you’re ever looking for concert tickets, sports tickets and more in London, America, Canada etc. , please check out TickPick.

I would love to hear who you’d like to have at your own dream concert! Please share!


Three Year Length Check

Hi guys,

So my hair turned 3 on the 18th of July! I honestly was planning on skipping the nappiversary/length check post but @kinkchic on Instagram left a comment on one of my posts talking about the nappiversary post so I just had to do it.

What were my goals from my two year nappiversary and how well did I do?

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Lemélange Styling

Nothing makes me happier than seeing people do creative things, seeing people create things and seeing people do things they are passionate about. Do you know why? It shows in the quality of work that they put out.

Lemélange Styling (LMG Styling) is an emerging styling brand with two creative heads behind it whose main aim is to promote African print in every possible way.

I love their work and I’m going to share with you guys 2 of their shoots so you can see why.

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What Nobody Told Me About Growing Up


When I was little/ younger, I had all these ideas and fantasies of what it would be like to be grown up.

I would be filthy rich (there’s still time for this; I won’t give up!), I would be married by the time I was 23, I would have an awesome job (At first I wanted to be a vet; I don’t know why because I do not like animals that much. Later, I wanted to be a voice over artist for cartoons. One time, I wanted to be on TV and/or radio; still do. Later on, I decided I’d rather work for myself) etc
Now that I’m older, even though I still think to myself that there’s still time to have all these amazing dreams leave my head and come into the world and become realities, I review some dreams and I know they will most probably remain dreams. As depressing as this sounds, it’s the truth and I know I’m not the only one who feels this way.

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Product Review: Olori Damage Be Gone (Deep Conditioning Hair Treatment)

Hi guys,

Today, I bring you a product review.
I’d been seeing this product online and once saw it at NITC but didn’t buy it because it was pricey.
In October last year, my sister spotted Olori’s stand when we were at the Beauty Africa Exhibition and Conference. We headed there are purchased the medium sized tub which usually costs 4000 NGN. However, we were able to get a discount so we got it at 3600 NGN and they threw in a little sample tub for free.

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Instapicks Backlogs #2

Hey beautiful people,

Did your week go well? Mine was just so-so.

I hope you’ve entered for the giveaway that Nafisah and Oge of Coily Head of Hair and I are having.

It’s my birthday tomorrow by the way! I will probably have a post up tomorrow but in the event that I don’t, I just thought to let you know. I will be a quarter of a century old and I sure do feel old! 😦

You know how you have so many things you wish you would have achieved by a certain age and then that age comes around and you’ve basically achieved nada on your list of goals? You don’t? *cough* Me neither! *nose grows Pinocchio style*

Anyways, here’s the rest of my Instapicks Backlogs and they are sort of a lot.


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