When are you making your hair?

Hello people, welcome to the ’ember months’ as my fellow Nigerians like to call the last quarter of the year.
It just dawned on me that the year is well spent and will soon be over and I was reminded that I set out some goals at the beginning of the year that I would still like to accomplish. If you are like me and you like to procrastinate and do things at the last minute, this is the time to start working on said goals.
In order to achieve my hair goal length wise, I think I will be putting my hair in protective styles till the year runs out.
So about today’s post, without getting into the nitty gritty, it’s simply a short piece I wrote about an issue that has been on my mind for years. I wrote it for something I was doing and I thought I’d share it with you guys. Enjoy!
This morning I spent a little more time than usual painstakingly brushing my hair, pinning and tucking it to perfection. I stepped out the door feeling like a million bucks and skipped happily all the way to work. As I stepped into the office, the first thing my colleague said to me was “when are you making your hair?”. The way I stared at her; if only I could karate-kick her out the window.
Whenever I leave my house without a weave, a wig or braids, at least one person will ask, “when are you making your hair”. As a matter of fact, someone in the house with me may say, “are you going out with your hair like that?”
It has got me thinking: What’s wrong with my real hair? Do I need to have a weave or braids on before people think I look good?
We’ve learnt to rely so heavily on hair extensions that being without them makes us feel incomplete, makes us look incomplete. When did this begin? Did it just become so over time?
I know people whose real hair I’ve never ever seen! They go into the salon with a weave and come out with another. If all the hair extension companies in the world shut down today, I’m sure some people will never be seen in public again.
Personally, I love the look and drama of long, wavy hair extensions that blow in the wind as much as the next girl; but I’m also very comfortable with my real hair and I think everyone should be. You have to learn to love and be content with what you were born with; it’s yours and no matter how much you cover it up, it’s still there. Maybe if we all did this, no one would ask that question because seeing real hair would be normal.
So this is I, speaking on behalf of the hair that is crying to see the daylight and feel the wind; please let it out and be okay with it every now and then.


8 thoughts on “When are you making your hair?

  1. I get asked this question all.the.time of my little two-year-old’s hair. She’s two for f—ing sake. But since her hair is not relaxed, then the moment one little curl gets free of her head, then all her teachers are ringing my phone and asking me when I’ll get her hair done. She has lovely shoulder length hair (never been cut) and some kind soul suggested that I should cut her hair since it was ‘obviously stressing me out’.


    • Shoulder length natural hair? I’m so jealous of your baby! Kindly tell the teachers that that’s how her hair is naturally; it is bound to get frizzy and they need to just learn to deal with it. And please please please don’t cut it or relax it! A 2 year old should be given space to just be 2 no matter what anyone says.


  2. I just wanted to say that I really like your blog but it is bothersome to see you box types 3a-4a hair into “looser curls”. Those are 4 completely different hair types that start off loosely curly and move into kinky curly territory. Yes, some people ideolize “softer” and longer hair but there are others that gravitate towards what they see not because of the texture but because they see HEALTHY HAIR. Type 4a hair is looser than 4b and 4c but it seems as if you’re saying it like 4a isn’t kinky and is a walk in park which isn’t true.


    • Hi Naturalista, thank you! 4a hair is looser curls than 4c hair, not so? That’s what I meant when I said it. If I in any way implied that 4a hair is a walk in the park, it was unintended. As a matter of fact, my hair is a mix of 2 or 3 types and I believe there is some 4a in there so I know that it is no walk in the park(although I must admit that those bits are a little easier to handle than the rest). Also, I wasn’t talking from my own standpoint in some parts as I was simply trying to explain the different views people have about hair that isn’t the same as theirs. And yes people idolize healthy hair but there are quite a number of people who would in the blink of an eye pick healthy 3b hair over healthy 4c hair. That’s one of the points I was trying to make.


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